Ambivalence about alcohol and HAMS

I am in a stage of ambivalence about drinking. I don’t know if I want to be 100% sober, but I don’t want to have the negatives from alcohol. I did a cost benefit analysis, but still am unsure. Health-wise, mental stability-wise, employment-wise I should at least only drink in moderation. The main things I…

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Hypocrite much?

  I feel like a sham i tell people coping skills, but I have trouble doing them myself. My therapist told me to try mindfulness. I know what it is. I recommend it. But, my mind spins so much,  i can’t be “mindful” i have trouble breathing, cbt is out the window, i can’t seem…

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Distorted Thinking and Urges for Alcohol

  Originally posted in Psych Central https://blogs.psychcentral.com/triple-winner/2017/05/distorted-thinking-and-urges-for-alcohol/ I have abstained from drinking alcohol for 6 months. Day to day, I rarely think about it. I go to weekly meetings and have tools. But, occasionally I get tempted. I went to a restaurant where the drinks were flowing and they looked good. But, I just looked.…

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Stages of Change in Recovery From Alcohol Addiction

Originally published in Psych Central https://blogs.psychcentral.com/triple-winner/2017/04/stages-of-change-in-recovery-from-alcohol-addiction/ (Photo from SmartRecovery.org) There are a number of stages one goes through when recovering from an addictive behavior. 1. Pre-contemplation — at this stage one is unaware of any problems. Others may point them out, but you have no interest in changing. 2. Contemplation– At this stage one is aware of…

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Finding Support for Mental Illness and Alcoholism

  Originally published on Psych Central https://blogs.psychcentral.com/triple-winner/2017/03/finding-support-for-mental-illness-and-alcoholism/ It can be hard dealing with a mental illness and/or alcoholism without support from a loved one. Perhaps, they don’t recognize it as a real problem. They may be frightened or not comprehend what is happening. Sometimes, partners may even try to sabotage your recovery. There could be…

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The Stigma of Co-Occurring Disorders

In my opinion, this is my best yet 🙂 Originally published on Psych Central https://blogs.psychcentral.com/triple-winner/2017/03/the-stigma-of-co-occurring-disorders/ There is a great deal of stigma attached with both mental illnesses and addictions. That is one reason I talk about my experiences. So, others won’t feel alone, and, to put a face to these conditions. It is scary to…

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Feeling Vulnerable

I have disclosed a lot. Nothing left to hide. A lot of people knew I had a mental health diagnosis. The alcohol was not really a secret but I never used the word ‘alcoholic’. I thought I might feel free, not having secrets, but right now I feel uneasy. I hope I did the right…

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Someone Has A Sense of Humor

I have attended a few Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meetings. They are supposed to be more of a spiritual, than a religious program. I never felt like I belonged at the few meetings I went to. It also felt more religious than I am comfortable with, from the higher power, to the Serenity Prayer. I looked…

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Feeling Exposed

I have social anxiety and used to barely interact with others. Enough to do my job, get my groceries, but not much more. I have slowly been building on that and as far as overcoming my anxiety- I think I have come a long way. I have been slowly disclosing information about myself to others.…

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‘High’ Anxiety

How I learned to cope with stress without alcohol I was at a SMART recovery meeting tonight. We were talking about how we deal with stress. I used to turn to the bottle to avoid uncomfortable emotions. Awkward social situations seemed easier. Anxiety didn’t feel as painful. But, as I mentioned in the meeting, I…

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