My husband was grumpy and moody over the weekend. I automatically go to being a frightened child thinking I did something wrong and am 100% to blame. That I am guilty and have to fix things.
I started assuming what could be wrong. I thought maybe he was resentful about housework, so I took care of some chores. As time went on, I wondered how to talk with him.
I didn’t want to be confrontational. When I asked if he was mad he would deflect it with a joke.
Finally, when we both had free time in the evening i asked to speak with him. He seemed like he was ready to defend himself. But, I just said “You seem unhappy. Is something bothering you?” I did it! I could talk like an adult and not cower down.
He says he is just a grumpy old man and not unhappy. Nothing is bothering him. He seems sincere.
So, presto, problem solved- I guess. I was worrying about nothing it seems.